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Self Harm start to erase the stigma!

    Self Harm is a topic I have just started gathering more information with because through helping people I found how common it is. I had to look in and realize that I also self-harmed in the way of physical abuse towards my self-believing I deserved it. Self-harm can be triggered from many things and it is different to almost anyone on the why and how they do it. In talking with more and more teens I found how common this was and how alone they can feel in it. It's definitely something that needs to be openly talked about because the statics are real. In my research here is what I found:


-Each year, 1 in 5 females and 1 in 7 males engage in self-injury


-90 percent of people who engage in self-harm begin during their teen or pre-adolescent years


-Nearly 50 percent of those who engage in self-injury activities have been sexually abused


-Females comprise 60 percent of those who engage in self-injurious behavior


-About 50 percent of those who engage in self-mutilation begin around age 14 and carry on into their 20s


-Many of those who self-injure report learning how to do so from friends or pro-self-injury websites


-Approximately two million cases are reported annually in the U.S.


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    These statics are staggering and make you ask why? Why would we take such physical abuse out on ourselves so I looked in and asked myself why did I ever feel the need to hit my self? I Guess it had to do with me believing I needed to be punished and that I was a failure. I had this complex growing up and it has always stuck with me but I have been able to re-direct it. It was that sense of me punishing myself and looking back I didn't even realize why I was doing it. This is something that needs to be talked about with kids and especially teens because they need to know it is ok to have these emotions. The following really got to me;


-Each year, 1 in 5 females and 1 in 7 males engage in self-injury

90 percent of people who engage in self-harm begin during their teen or pre-adolescent years


-Nearly 50 percent of those who engage in self-injury activities have been sexually abused


-Females comprise 60 percent of those who engage in self-injurious behavior


-About 50 percent of those who engage in self-mutilation begin around age 14 and carry on into their 20s


-Many of those who self-injure report learning how to do so from friends or pro-self-injury websites


    A Twitter follower recently started talking to me about self-harm and the triggers she has and it does make sense. Thankfully there is help and support out there and you can make it through it. One of her releases is through writing poems and I wanted to share one with you;


Mom, I'm sorry..

 I'm trying my best I really am

But every time I try it's like you don't give a damn. 

I'm trying to be the daughter you want 

But it feels like I'm the one you always want to taunt. 

You scream at me face to face 

Wondering if I left, if my footsteps you'd be able to trace. 

Mom, I'm trying can you forgive me

For not being who you wanted me to be. 

Mom, I love you! 

Mom are you listening!? I love you!

I don't know what else to do. 

Every day I keep over thinking 

Wishing I could be back drinking 

I tell myself not to do it but...

Maybe if I do just one cut?

I'm not saying it's all your fault 

You're probably thinking how I'm not acting like an adult. 

I'm sorry mom please forgive me

For not being who you wanted me to be. 

I'm saying goodbye maybe just the last time

This hurt and pain I feel makes me feel like dying. 

I know you don't understand that my urges race.

That's why you won't find my body, not even a trace.


I'm Sorry Mom - Annette Hernandez


    If you know anyone that is suffering from self-harm here are some tips to offer support. It is difficult when it is a family member or friend but also being aware and aware of steps you can take makes a difference.


Remain calm and caring


Accept him or her even if you disagree with the behavior


Know that this represents a way of dealing with emotional pain


Listen with compassion


Avoid panic and overreaction


Do not show shock or revulsion at what they've done


Do not use threats in an attempt to stop the behavior


Do not allow him or her to recount the self-injury experience in detail as it may trigger another session


Do get appropriate help for him or her from a qualified mental health professional


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1 Comment

marciemae
Posted on  01/11/2018 17:06 I started self harming at a young age. As early as 7-8 I can remember kicking things so I would hurt. As a teen I was athletic and would run until my body would collapse. As an adult my life became complicated and my self injurious behavior included very deep cutting of words on my body and burns that required skin grafts. I haven't injured for 8 years now.....although it does cross my mind too often. I've had time to reflect on why I did the things I did and why I still feel the need to.

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